Benjamins birth story

Dec 13, 2010

Water broke at 8:30 am

Got kids ready dropped them off at friends house got to Hosptial about 9:30

Had a few test done to see if it was my water waiting for results

Got results back they said it was my water

They did an ultrasound to check the fluid level and since he had enough around him that i was free to go home. And if I had another gush, or if i keep leaking to come in I also had to make sure to do my movement counts.

Came home took a nice nap, relaxed and did more decorating of the house. Drank some OJ to make sure he was moving good, have also done the breast pump which is suppose to help bring on contractions, I haven't had any, i was suppose to do it 20 min 20 min off for 2 hours, but I've only done it twice, it hurts and plus I have things I need to do tomorrow.

It's now 10:30 and im still home.

December 14th

Went into my mid wife, she checked me out, said baby sounds great, is very low and ready to come out, I'm dilated to a 4 and 85% effeced. She told me to go eat, then go home and hook myself up to the pump to keep the natural contractions going. An he should be here soon! And if he is not by tomorrow to go in a demand to be seen. She also gave me some natural medicine to help with my nervous and to help feel the contractions. It was these small pills that she put under my tongue that dissolved and tasted sweet. She also stripped my membranes. So now time to eat, and see what happens next. After lunch I went on as normal, went to post office, picked kids up from school, went to the car wash, then to target, there we had a shopping cart of stuff and I told Candice I needed to go to the bathroom when I stood up ( I was sitting in the deluxe kid seat in shopping cart) she said your water broke, my blue jeans were noticeably wet, so she loaded kids to car, I went to bathroom to see what I had, then I called Dustun I told him to stay put until otherwise noted. When I called my midwife she told me to hook myself up to the breast pump and do 20 min on and 20 off for two hours and if by 7pm I still wasn't have contractions to go in. So I lined up a sitter and Candice and I took off. Dustun was out with Abby doing one last father daughter activity before his son arrived. We went and grabbed some food knowing it was going to be a long night and they wouldn't allow me to eat. I just got a jamba juice. We went to triage and explained that my I had 2 gushes of fluid in 2 days. They did another ultrasound said he looked good. I was afraid they were going to send me home. Candice could tell I was upset, so I texted my mid wife and asked her what I should do and her response was: Are they checking to see if your water is intact? Question them re: GBS & broken water-it is a risk factor, make them explain why they're willing to take that risk. So now that I was armed with a loaded question I felt confident that I wasnt going to be turned away. But lucky for me the doctor came in and said if I wanted to be induced they would do it. So of course I said yes. After that I called Dustun told him to come. And then they started my IV and took me to my birth room. As all three of us got settled in we talked, joked around, watched tv.

December 15, 2010

Once I got settled into my room I was hooked up to piton, my contractions were bearable. At 4 am they came in and broke my water. That when things started to speed up more I was still doing good. At some point I did ask for some IV pain meds which are wonderful I was finally sleeping between contractions. I do remember getting sick and throwing up and the nurse saying that was good that meant it was going to be happening soon. I just remember moving my phone off my belly so I didn't get it dirty. Yes yes I had my phone with me :) soon after that I don't remember much I do remember was asking where my epidural was I was yelling it to anyone who would listen I dont think anyone was. I would rest for what seemed to be only few seconds between contractions, and Candice stood by my side asking if I needed to push, she gave me words of encouragement and was on the phone telling Dustun to hurry to the Hosptial and to bring the kids since all our sitters that we did have lined up failed. (We had 5 set up amazing how no one could help anyways) the anastegiologist finally showed up he asked if I could sit up I told him no so I rolled on my side curled up to a ball and had many contractions and feeling like I was about to poop, he cleaned my back and gave me the numbing drugs, he kept telling me to not move, I remember Candice telling him i was in a contraction so I couldn't hold still soon after that my body could no longer stop Benjamin from coming to this world, here I was in bed on my side with his head half way out, feeling everything, no doctors paying any attention to me, upset that my friends failed me and that I didn't know where Dustun was, I was happy I wasn't alone Candice kept saying, I can do anything with Christ. So I had the lord there by my side helping me bring one of his sons into this world for me to take care of.

Finally someone noticed Benjamin coming out they stopped the epidrual and somehow I ended and the end of the bed, the next thing I remember was looking down to see Benjamin make his very quick entrance. Dustun walked in the door right as the doctor caught him. Benjamin was placed on my belly and there he was cleaned he was perfect. Dustun got to cut the cord, he was so happy.

So the things that were told to me about his delivery was done, apparently the resident doctor had his back to me lining up all his tools and the doctor tapped him on the shoulder and said, "hey see that? It's a baby catch it" then the resident doctor apparently tried pushing Benjamin back and he was stopped and was told to stop and catch him.

Once Benjamin was on the warmer I looked around and said wow there is a lot of people in the room to bad no one checked on me between 4 and 8:30 or came in at 6:30 when I was asking for pain meds and a epidrual. Amazingly I never needed any stitches and I felt great after having him. Now knowing that I did it I wish I did it at home, I feel like things would have gone smoother and more calmly if I had. And I now know I can do it with out being numbed up.

So that is Benjamins birth story. I plan on blogging more as soon as I can.

comming soon

Will be blogging very soon. Here are some pictures!

(pictures are in reverse order,sorry)
12-19-1012-18-10
12-17-10
12-15-10

Date nights

So the last few nights I have wanted to try and get in as many "dates" as possible, cause soon I'll be in the hospital bringing a new little one into this world, then I'll be home taking care of the new gift from God.

I was able to go shopping with Abby the other night, just mommy and daughter, we went to the mall and exchanged her boots for a bigger size, then we went to baby r' us and get her baby brother some diapers, then I decided why not finish the date with a movie, well since I didn't have any food, drink or diapers to last through a movie I bought some nessesties there also.
Then we went and got changed and made up a bag with all her new goodies to eat and drink and off we went to a late movie. We saw the new movie Tangled, so very cute. She sat next next and soon she currled up on my lap and there we watched the movie the movie theater was packed but to me it was just me and her, I watched her expression as she watch the movie, I felt her breath, I watched her laugh, and oww and aww over the cute sence. She would randomly look up and kiss me. this was the best date ever.
(forgot camera, :( so no pictures, but trust me we are cute as can be!)

The following night Abby Dustun and I went to sonic for a late dinner, she got a grilled cheese, banana, and milk, I figured since we were sitting there eating she could get out of her car seat, at that point she stopped eating and was being a crazy climber in the blazer, laughing and squealing in delight, my heart was very full of joy as I watched her.




Today when I took her to school, I figured I should probably get a picture, just in case its the last time I am not carrying a new born in with me. I love that she goes to school, she has so much fun, coloring, learning about all the great things in this world, and playing outside, or inside if its too cold. Her favorite thing is the baby's and the buggies she will always go to them, and today when I picked her up, she was carrying one around, I love it!
(Look at her hair it looks silly, like she has a flat top, lol )
After I dropped off the kids Dustun and I went on a breakfast date, we went to Denny's, we got hot chocolate, (the best) orange cranberry pancakes, ham steak, hash browns, and eggs. Dustun got moons over my hammy. Our waitress was so nice, she even gave me a free fruit cup, it really had the best strawberry's, grapes and Bananas.
So the new game we all seem to be enjoying is words with friends, its a I-phone app. Its basically online scrabble, so while we waited for our food we were playing each other trying to get a better word with more points. The first game I beat dustun, me crystal playing a spelling game won!!
When I picked the kids up from school, I took them to he park to play for a bit, here we are being goofy playing around.




After the park we came home, and after their evening snack, I let them play with the snowflakes, putting them on the windows and taking them off they enjoyed it, and it was so cute!
I am very blessed in all the great things God has provided for me, my spunky 2 year old, my almost here baby boy, my husband, all my family near and far, all my friends, my health, my security in knowing we will be provided for and never have to worry about jobs or homes or money.

Tantrums

So for about 3 weeks I have been dealing with Abby and her tantrums, I don't know if it's terrible twos, lack of sleep, due to her bad dreams, separation anxiety, her knowing she no longer going to be the "baby" or what's going on. Some days I can handle her with open arms and love where all I do is give her everything and anything she wants, some days I try to help her and then end up ignoring her until she is done screaming because apparently nothing I do or offer her is what she wants. Some days I laugh at how silly she looks when she is pushing her tears out. And some days I can't handle her at all and I have to get away either by a shower or physically leave the house so I wake Dustun up or call Candice to watch the kids.

I feel like a bad mom cause I don't know why she is acting this way or how I can fix it. I feel like a bad mom cause somedays and many moments I dont want to be around her. All I want to do is run away.

As miss Tyler swift says: And you're tied together with a smile but you're coming undone

Benjamin

38+4
It is still hard for me to realize that I am pregnant, I have been blessed to have such great pregnancy, the only time I notice I'm pregnant is when I walk past a full mirror, or try to put my contacts in and hit my belly on sink, or trying to do laundry, reaching and bending is hard to do. And the biggest Que is the fact he is a constant mover and grover, I love it!
My weight has been good, I have only gained 25 pounds since being pregnant, but only 16 from my pre pregnancy weight. My blood pressure has all ways been even, and the one time I thought maybe my water was leaking turn out to not be, guess I was just peeing, lol and I am 2 cm dilated I hope that means i'll be having him sooner rather then later!
I am still able to do the things I want or need to do, all though it take me longer and I have to stop to sit, drink water or relax, I can do it, if I cant I ask for help and I always get it.

Here is how he is growing according to baby center:
How your baby's growing:
Your baby has really plumped up. He weighs about 6.8 pounds and she's over 19 1/2 inches long (like a leek). She has a firm grasp, which you'll soon be able to test when you hold her hand for the first time! Her organs have matured and are ready for life outside the womb.

Wondering what color your baby's eyes will be? You may not be able to tell right away. If she's born with brown eyes, they'll likely stay brown. If she's born with steel gray or dark blue eyes, they may stay gray or blue or turn green, hazel, or brown by the time she's 9 months old. That's because a child's irises (the colored part of the eye) may gain more pigment in the months after she's born, but they usually won't get "lighter" or more blue. (Green, hazel, and brown eyes have more pigment than gray or blue eyes.)

How your life's changing:

For many women, the next couple of weeks are a waiting game. Use this time to prepare your baby's nursery or to take care of necessary tasks you may not get around to for a while after your baby's born. Take naps, catch up on your reading, and spend uninterrupted time with your partner while you can.

Some swelling in your feet and ankles is normal during these last weeks, but call your practitioner without delay if you notice excessive or sudden swelling of your feet or ankles, more than slight swelling of your hands, any swelling in your face or puffiness around your eyes, or have a sudden weight gain. Also let her know immediately if have severe or persistent headaches; visual changes (such as double or blurred vision, seeing spots or flashing lights, light sensitivity, or a temporary loss of vision), intense upper abdominal pain or tenderness, or nausea and vomiting. These are symptoms of a serious condition called preeclampsia.

The only thing that I have that I didn't with Abby is some common bacteria infection the only thing is I will be on antibiotics when I go into labor, so that way I don't give it to him.

I have also wanted to do a at home water birth I have a mid wife in my ward, here is her website:
http://beginbeautifully.com/
I have done a lot reading about pros and cons, I'm still at a toss up, I guess I'll just see what fills right when it starts to happen. I am excited to have this little guy join our crazy family!